I Forgive but Never Forget

When someone does me wrong, I usually have no problem forgiving them because I don't like carry grudges if only makes me feel bad and really does nothing to help the situation. If someone never ask for forgiveness I almost always tell them that I for give them and let them know I only give them one chance and if they do it again they are no longer my friend or in my life. No some people like relatives and family friends you have to deal with them no matter what.

One thing to always remember any time you forgive someone don't forget what they did. If you forget what they did to you then you will never forgive yourself for letting them do it again and they will if you forget. So remember it OK to forgive but its not OK to forget.

Usually for family I still forgive them but I do not deal with them during family functions. I say hi to them and then pretty much avoid them as much as possible during the family function. I don't tell everyone else in the family our business because it only makes the whole thing a lot bigger than it needs to be. Hopefully I will get an apology or something. If not I just do not deal with those family members except when forced to for a family function. There is no reason to make everyone else suffer for what another family member has done. Of course there are different degrees of what someone has done and somethings take longer to forgive but I do my best to forgive as soon as I can because like I said it only hurts me when I am angry.

Now when a friend does something to me that needs forgiveness, I pretty much tell them straight out that they have done me wrong and If they still want to be friends, i would expect an apology or something to let me know that they are sorry. If they been a friend for a long time its a little harder to keep them from being friends without and apology. But usually I am good at picking friends and most of my friends have never done be wrong at least not on purpose.

Its hard when someone in a relationship does you wrong specially if you have been romantically involved with them. You have to figure out why they did it and if its worth continuing the relationship. Now if you are married then you have not much of a choice but to resolve the issue. I know some issues just cant be resolved and you got to consider if you need to separate or get a divorce or something. If you have kids it even gets a lot harder. You just got to hope you get an apology or something from you significant other buy still find a way to forgive them so it does not eat you up inside.

Sometimes a co-worker is going to do something wrong to you and its hard to face people you work with that have done you wrong. You have to figure some way to get along with them. You might just have to confront them and let them know that they have done you wrong and hopefully they will apologize and you can get back to work and not forgive them. You want a job that you are happy to go to everyday. Lucky for me I enjoy my job and so far no-one has done me wrong yet, at-least that i am aware.

You sometimes have to find a way to forgive someone that you don't even know that's done you wrong. It can happen at a store, on the road or even a party. People can be cruel ore not caring. Some people are just rude and run over people in their way. i usually get mad when things happen to me from someone I don't know. Since I hope to never see them again I can forgive them and get on with me life.

Remember to Always try to forgive someone and try to work out your differences but never forget what someone has done or it will come back and get you someday. Some people you just have to forget them completely. Others that you have to deal with forgive them and do not let it get to you or you will never forgive them. If you want to be happy you can't worry about anything that's why you have to to forgive. Its really for you and not the other person.